Some of the deities we worship have roots in the holy books- Ooni of Ife says, frowns at misrepresentation of African religion

Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi Ojaja II, has cautioned people to stop misrepresenting the importance of festivals and deities celebrated in the ancient city of Ile-Ife and all parts of Africa.

Speaking at the 2016 celebration of Oranfe the god of fire in Ile Ife, Osun state yesterday Oct. 26th, the Ooni said that some of the deities being worshiped in Africa have their roots in holy books like the Bible and Quran. 

He lamented that many people failed to promote the positive aspects of the yoruba and African festivals due to slavish mentality and over-Westernization. According to him, no human being can survive without what the deities represent.‎

"Our people really need to be enlightened. A lot of these festivals have been misconstrued, misrepresented and demonized as if we are idol worshippers. We are not idol worshippers. We are rather believers in nature. ‎I am not saying the commandments of God should not be adhered to, but we must know that all these deities are messengers of God. They represent nature. Nothing can be done without nature regardless of our religion be it Islam or Christianity or even traditional. We only honour nature because we are all integra part of it, and not worship idols. Some of the deities we worship have roots in the holy books. We are also following the instructions of God needed for the sustenance of mankind as everybody, including powerful leaders rely on nature to survive." Ooni Ogunwusi said

 

He faulted the influence of westernization on the cultural belief of Africans, adding that it is a major factor responsible for the increasing poverty facing the immeasurably blessed continent. 

"Those who keep sensitising people against us that we are worshipping idols are not kind to history. I am proud to be associated with nature. Ife has 201 out the 401 deities and they are all relevant.‎ These deities are divine messengers of God sent for different purposes. One of them is ORANFE the god of fire being celebrated here today. It is a pity that all powers in the possession of blackmen are being used for battles and power tussles. It is from this unique powers that the west sourced technology and development from and they are now using it against us. We will continue to experience poverty all over the place if we don't celebrate the good side of our culture. Some of these deities also show the mysteries of God. God wouldn't have made mistake in the creation of the deities. They are representatives of sciences being taught in schools. It is very sad that the western world has messed up our psyche and inflicted slavish mentality on us making us to believe we are idol worshippers as our pitiable neglect of our own culture and traditions a major factor responsible for the poverty in the land. We left the positive sides and allow the west to implant the negative side in our brain.

Super Falcons train with coaches Florence Omagbemi & Perpetual Nkwocha ahead of African Women's Cup

The Super Falcons trained on Wednesday and Thursday morning with head coach Florence Omagbemi & assistant coach Perpetual Nkwocha ahead of the 12th edition of the African Women's Cup Of Nations tournament holding in Cameroon next month.

The players worked on tactical drills, defensive set-up, heading and goalkeeping drills. More photos after the cut.

Photo-credit : @NGSuper_Falcons

Mansa Shoprite in Zambia burns to ashes (photos)

Fire has swept through Mansa Shoprite branch in Luapula Province of Zambia, destroying properties worth millions. The fire outbrake which happened yesterday, October 26, between 20:00 hours and 21:00 hours had reportedly given the Zambian fire service operatives’ tough time in putting out due to the unavailability of water, reports say.

According to reports, the cause of the fire emanated from the store room and the value of the property destroyed have not been established yet. Meanwhile investigations have been instituted in the matter to what brought about the fire out brake.

Lagos police arrest suspected owner of Naijagistlive over attempts to swindle oil billionaire businessman, Femi Otedola

    

Agents of the Special Fraud Unit (SFU) in Lagos have captured a suspected fraudster, Babatunde Oyedepo, prominently known as Baudex on IG, for professedly endeavoring to cheat representative Femi Otedola.‎

The Nation reports that Oyedepo, 23, was asserted to have sent danger and shakedown messages to the complainants and other prominent Nigerians through a site, naijagistlive.com, requesting tremendous wholes of cash.

Oyedepo, an inhabitant of Sixth Avenue in Festac Town, was claimed to have posted a superimposed bare photos of an attorney on his site, charging that she had been laying down with her manager and different customers. As indicated by the police, the presume requested N3.5million from the legal advisor to expel the improper picture from the site, which the casualty couldn't bear.

A cop who talked on state of secrecy said "The casualty had purportedly told the speculate that she has no such cash in her record and that the photo posted on the site had taken a toll her, her occupation, her marriage and her social life. The legal advisor is among the three distinct people who appealed to the suspect." Spokesman for SFU, Lawal Audu said the suspect has three unique cases pending before the unit, including that the initial two included extortion and risk to life.

As indicated by Audu, on October nineteenth, one Dapo Balogun reported an instance of blackmail, coercion and danger to life against the suspect.

"The complainant guaranteed that the suspect had posted on naijagistlife a story asserting that he had worked with previous Petroleum Minister, Deziani Allison-Maduekwe and that all through the period he had deceitfully procured enormous aggregate of cash. The complainant additionally guaranteed to have gotten a mail from the suspect, educating him that he ought to pay an undisclosed sum running into millions to empower him expel the provocative story from the site.

He charged that from that point forward he had been getting danger messages from obscure guests requesting immense entirety or hazard being grabbed. The second complainant is Femi Otedola. He asserted that the speculate posted an irritating story on similar site blaming him for laying down with various young ladies in his office. The suspect has another misrepresentation case pending at the Federal High court."

The suspect however denied being in charge of the activities, demanding that he was confined by the proprietors of the site which he just outlined. The school dropout who asserted to be a site architect, said that he was reached through email to plan the site.

He said: "I outline sites for individuals and subsequent to planning the webpage I will incorporate my contacts in the site to pull in different clients. I was captured through my contact on naijagistlive.com.

“Released Chibok Girls Need Psychological Rehabilitation" – Pope Francis

         

Pope Francis 1, pioneer of the Catholic Church around the world, has said the 21 Chibok young ladies discharged from Sambisa timberland require mental assessment directed by specialists.

Pope Francis who put forth this expression through his agent, President of Pontifical Mission Societies (Nigeria), Rev. Fr. George Ajana, amid the current year's World Mission Sunday, at Our Lady Queen of Nigeria Pro-Cathedral, Area 3, Abuja, said;

"The arrival of the 21 Chibok young ladies is triumph, it is a decent sign and we are expressing gratitude toward God for it that a portion of the Chibok young ladies were discharged. Nigerians have been commending this while, the congregation goes along with them in the festival and we are unified with them.

Thus, we above all else say thanks to God that a couple of them, only 21 were discharged. The Chibok young ladies require restorative help; the administration is doing that as of now. They have been taken to healing facility. I think they will require mental restoration. The administration need to get specialists to balance out them since they more likely than not experienced a considerable measure of injury.

"I don't think they will be their typical selves any more. In this way, the Chibok young ladies should be mentally taken back to their genuine living. What's more, we have to appeal to God for them; the congregation will be exceptionally cheerful. We continue appealing to God for the arrival of the rest since they are individuals to be regarded. The life of one individual is as vital as the lives of the entire country, which must be regarded."

Fake army officer nabbed in Cross River State after defrauding victims of over N1 million

  

A man who has been parading as an armed force officer in Obudu for a considerable length of time was captured a couple days back after grievances from adolescents he had duped promising them induction into the Nigerian Defense Academy, NDA.

The asserted fake armed force officer recognized as (Major Kola Elijah) is at present at the Obudu Police division for duping individuals from the general population of cash adding up to over a million naira.

Some of those he swindled incorporate; Aweli Gabriel Lishiliniye N150, 000, Kashim Adeloye Ebenezer N406, 500, Abiabe Godwin Ugbe N210, 000, and Audor Peter Bekeh N335, 000.

Presented underneath are bank employees indicating cash paid his casualties.

"It was after his arrest that we discovered that he is not a soldier but runs a boutique in Calabar. He just came to town to latch on the ignorance and desperation of young people to get into NDA and has been using that to swindle them." a security source told CrossRiverWatch

Child Abuse: Police rescue little girl brutalized by her father & stepmother over bedwetting

 

Police in Yenagoa, Bayelsa state have saved a young lady who was seriously brutalized by her dad and step mother, for bed-wetting. As indicated by twitter client, @MissTekenah: "I've heard instances of Child Abuse. However, seeing a casualty today conveyed tears to my eyes. I can't get over it. It shouldn't hurt to be a youngster For continually urinating in bed, this is the thing that her dad n step mother did to her. There's no reason for youngster mishandle." Continue to see more photographs of the young lady after she was saved...

VP Osinbajo speaks on arrest of some judges, says "If we don't kill corruption, it will kill us"

                            


VP Yemi Osinbajo was a visitor on Channels TV where he was gotten some information about the late capture of a few judges by the DSS. Osinbajo who is a Professor of Law and a Senior Advocate of Nigeria SAN, said he would rather not put forth a casual expression on the matter but rather that passing by a general diagram, what is being battled in this occasion is defilement and that passing by what his manager President Buhari, says, in the event that we don't slaughter debasement, it will execute us. He says the general population who plunder Nigeria's domain have the way to enlist the best legal advisors who likewise can keep a case in court for 5-10 years.

"I would prefer not to make off the cuff(informal) however as a general comment, my position is that we are managing an issue. We are managing an existential issue. It represents everything. Take a gander at what happened in the North East. Numerous warriors lost their lives. Addressing a portion of the dowagers of these warriors, you are simply offended by the way that individuals stole the cash that should have been utilized to prepare the fighters. Prepare them physically, give them impenetrable vest, place them in legitimate shielded tanks as opposed to fake heavily clad tanks. These are the sorts of things that anyplace else on the planet, the shock will be with the end goal that you and I would artistically be standing up in the city to say where are these folks who did this and in the event that we don't feel that way, it just keeps on lessening us. My child was asking me a day or two ago that these individuals who did every one of these things, stole N50 billion and others, I haven't seen any of them bolted up. I said we have a framework. We must take after the manage of law. We are doing as such. We must take them to a courtroom. We are not in a general public where we are simply going to attach somebody to a stick and shoot them. We must go to a courtroom. A significant number of the individuals who do these things have the assets to procure the best legal advisors who can keep a case in court for a long time, 10 years. So we must continue battling that also"he said

EFCC Chairman seeks amendment of act to allow agency keep a percentage of recovered loots

 


Acting Chairman of EFCC, Ibrahim Magu, says the demonstration setting up the organization ought to be corrected in order to empower it keep a rate from the plunders recouped from degenerate people. Talking at the opening of the national anti-corruption conference meeting composed by the Presidential Advisory Committee against Corruption, PACAC, and the National Assembly in Abuja yesterday, Magu said this is the situation in different parts of the world.

"In a few purviews like the UK, continues of wrongdoing are further used to fortify the office. In EFCC, we have been battling for a considerable length of time to fabricate our central station and when I think about the billions of naira we recoup, I can see what might have happened in the event that we are permitted to apply a rate of this recuperation into our operations. There is the requirement for the Act to make an arrangement for a use of the returns of wrongdoing into recapitalising the counter join agencies"he said

Drake's song 'One Dance' is now Spotify's most streamed song ever with 880 million streams

Spotify, one of the world’s leading music streaming sites has announced that Drake's massive 2016 hit song 'One Dance' is now the most streamed song on its site ever with 880 million streams since its premiere in April 2016.

“One Dance” overtakes Major Lazer’s “Lean On” which was the most streamed song on Spotify with 875 million streams. Congrats to him!

How a Nigerian girl was incacerated and exploited as a domestic slave by a wealthy family in the UK

 

26-year-old Cynthia is one of the a large number of cutting edge subjection casualties whose affliction has been highlighted in a report distributed by the University of Hull and YouGov on Tuesday, October eighteenth, about the absence of attention to the scale or nature of present day bondage in the UK.

In December 2013, a year after she got away, Cynthia, then 23, reported the manhandle and misuse to the police. Her case is at present in its last stages. Furthermore, after three years, definitely a week ago, she won her shelter case and is presently working for a philanthropy close by her Accountancy thinks about.

Be that as it may, leaving subjugation was startling for Cynthia. Subjugated at 13 years old in the wake of being deceived into abandoning her home and school in Nigeria for a superior life, she had spent 10 years imprisoned and abused as a residential hireling on account of an affluent family in Essex.

"I knew I needed to leave," says Cynthia. "Be that as it may, I was extremely perplexed. I didn't know where I was going or where my future lay. My head was everywhere."

Amid those 10 years helpless before a rich, all around associated and apparently very regarded family from Nigeria, not a spirit fluttered an eyelid at the young lady in their group who might take different understudies to class, then lift them up, yet at no time go to classes herself. In many regards, she was imperceptible to the outside world.

The study finds that only eight for each penny of the UK populace comprehends the genuine degree of bondage in this nation, while more than 55 for each penny confess to not monitoring the most widely recognized sign. This absence of mindfulness about advanced bondage among the British open is highlighted in Cynthia's story.

As a youthful youngster she would walk the family's kids to class every day and afterward return home once more, without neighbors voicing any worry. When she was 15 she began going to night classes at the neighborhood school, yet none of the instructors addressed why a youngster was concentrating on at night and not amid the school day.

"Individuals couldn't have cared less," Cynthia reviews. "It's something that truly disturbs me. I was just 13 years of age, yet no one disagreed with the way that I shouldn't do these things. I didn't talk about it since I was advised not to talk, but rather it's miserable that it took 10 years for anybody to say something."

A report distributed by Kevin Hyland OBE, the UK's Independent Anti-Slavery Commissioner, as of late uncovered "unending shortcomings in cutting edge bondage wrongdoing reporting," indicating an absence of insight reporting and proof based activity, prompting casualties, for example, Cynthia being fizzled by the framework. In light of Cynthia's story, Mr Hyland said:

"There are numerous young ladies and ladies being acquired over and working the shadows. Cynthia was taking the kids to class at 13 years old, and individuals didn't pay heed. She was plainly a kid being dealt with uniquely in contrast to the next youngsters, yet nobody stood up or made a move. It's an issue with the law also. It should be managed like whatever other wrongdoing of manhandle."

Before she moved to the UK, Cynthia was going to class in the town where she experienced childhood in Lagos State, Nigeria. Despite the fact that she was in school her family was poor, and when the offer came up through a removed family companion for her to move in with a rich Nigerian family in Britain, her folks would not like to turn down the open door for her to escape destitution and access a superior instruction. Be that as it may, on touching base in the UK Cynthia immediately found the truth was altogether different.

"The day after I moved here the man of the house debilitated me," Cynthia says. "He said I needed to wake up at 5am each morning to clean the house. I wasn't permitted to go to class. I had been advised I would take the children to class and afterward go to my school for the day. Be that as it may, they said after I did the school run I wasn't permitted to go out – simply do the tasks. That knocked my socks off."

Cynthia got to be one of the 13,000 casualties of present day servitude enduring peacefully in the UK. She understood she had abandoned a much more joyful life in her nation of origin, yet she got herself caught and was not able break out. She says:

"In Nigeria I had companions and I would play. Be that as it may, when I came here I needed to end up a grown-up despite the fact that I was a tyke. I needed to go up against heaps of obligation. It was a considerable measure to adapt to and I had no protection by any means. My room entryway was constantly kept open so they could call me whenever. Here and there at 1am I'd need to get up and work."

As time went on her treatment turned out to be more awful. A few weeks after her landing Cynthia composed a letter tended to her folks, telling the truth of what was occurring, yet kept it in a shut scratch pad.

"The lady some way or another discovered it," she says. "That is the point at which I understood I was truly apprehensive of them and I couldn't do anything. I needed to implore her for pardoning. She wouldn't converse with me. I got to resemble an adversary in the house. I couldn't converse with individuals. I didn't have anybody to converse with. I attempted to tell my family in Nigeria however they didn't accept what I was stating. The lady let them know things that weren't genuine – that I wasn't acting."

While battling with her profound depression, Cynthia pined to go to class once more. Following a year of living in the UK she got another possibility at instruction.

"The family acknowledged I was continually crying about not going to class," she recalls. "I would have swollen eyes toward the end of consistently from crying about it. The lady addressed a companion who worked in a school and I was enlisted onto evening classes." But prevailing in her studies while finishing her day by day household work was no simple accomplishment. "Before going to classes I needed to complete all the housework, The lady would investigate it before I went. At times I would be late for school, different times I couldn't go by any means. However, I couldn't converse with anybody there about what was going on. I needed to imagine everything was alright."

Regardless of missing a year of classes and concentrate just in the nights, Cynthia passed her GCSEs only a year late. After that she was ravenous to proceed with her instruction.

"I needed to do a Business capability, however it was full-time," she says. "The lady said I needed to care for the children, so I couldn't do it. I needed to do evening classes once more. Bookkeeping was the main night class accessible, so I took that. I needed to put such a great amount of exertion in. I was resolved. I needed to do the housework as well. I needed to ensure wherever was perfect before I went to the library or anything."

Regardless of missing a year of classes and concentrate just in the nights, Cynthia passed her GCSEs only a year late. After that she was ravenous to proceed with her instruction.

"I needed to do a Business capability, however it was full-time," she says. "The lady said I needed to care for the children, so I couldn't do it. I needed to do evening classes once more. Bookkeeping was the main night class accessible, so I took that. I needed to put such a great amount of exertion in. I was resolved. I needed to do the housework as well. I needed to ensure wherever was spotless before I went to the library or anything."

At around an indistinguishable time from she started her school ponders, Cynthia met somebody who made getting away appear to be conceivable.

"I met a lady around the local area. She was Nigerian yet not inside the right-sew Nigerian people group," she says. "I was sitting in a seat and she came over with her children and began conversing with me. She could see that I was concerned. We got talking and she gave me her number. I called her a couple of weeks after the fact. Continuously I could open up to her. She said the most ideal path was to move out of the house. From that point I could settle on that decision. I knew it was the ideal time for me to move."

By chatting with somebody about her circumstance, Cynthia in the long run developed the certainty to tell the family she was taking off.

"I was exceptionally perplexed without bounds. I didn't know where I was going," she says. "I decided that I needed to go, yet it was truly terrifying. I had been in there for a long time."

Cynthia found a space to lease with the assistance of the lady who urged her to take off. The family reluctantly concurred she could leave, however kept her international ID. She didn't at first report them to the police. She thought she could quickly proceed onward from what had happened, yet soon found the experience was bringing about her misery, uplifted by budgetary weights. She reviews: "It was a distressing time, and I thought that it was difficult to pay the lease. I would clean for individuals, I would press garments. Be that as it may, I was depleted candidly and physically.

"I couldn't rest for the dread of what was going to transpire. At that point I began listening to voices in my mind around evening time, yelling orders at me. I came to the heart of the matter where I was dozing for one hour a night. I thought if everything understood that troublesome I would gather my pack and do a reversal to my nation, yet I couldn't do that. Despite everything they had my international ID and I had no visa, nothing. That is the point at which I chose I needed to tell the police what they had done to me."

Cynthia reported the manhandle to the police in December 2013, a year after she got away, and her case is as of now in its last stages. Only 28 for each penny of advanced servitude wrongdoings in the UK that get recorded; regardless of there being 3,146 potential casualties recognized by the National Referral Mechanism (NRM) in England and Wales a year ago, just 884 violations were recorded by police strengths.

Three years in the wake of getting away from the work abuse she was subjected to, Cynthia has recently won her refuge case a week ago and is currently working for a philanthropy close by her Accountancy contemplates, with arrangements to function as a record later on. Yet, her help and seek after what's to come are mixed with a feeling of dissatisfaction and bitterness in realizing that that there are a large number of different casualties in the nation who are as yet enduring peacefully. "Many individuals in the UK don't recognize what kid trafficking is," she says.

"It disheartens me that despite the fact that I've come out of it there are still thousands of people out there in the position I was in. The victims are kept inside the house. They’re crying but people aren't listening out for their voice."

 Source: The INDEPENDENT

13 Proven ways to make a good relationship great

Do a Google look on the best way to get your best body and you'll be immersed with pages of preparing tips. For the individuals who need to take that same, proactive way to deal with making your best relationship, I have your "practice regimen" underneath.

1. Do the things you did the main year you were dating.

As the months and years move on, we have a tendency to sneak into our notorious warm up pants and get sluggish in our relationship. We lose our understanding, tenderness, insightfulness, understanding and the general exertion we once made toward our mate. Recollect the primary year of your relationship and record every one of the things you used to accomplish for your accomplice. Presently begin doing them once more.

2. Request what you need.

After some time, we accept that our accomplice knows us so well that we don't have to request what we need. What happens when we make this supposition? Desires are set and pretty much as fast, they get collapsed. Those neglected desires can abandon us doubting the suitability of our association and association. Remember that "requesting what you need" reaches out to everything from enthusiastic to sexual needs.

3. Turned into a specialist on your accomplice.

Consider who your mate truly is and what energizes him or her (both physically and inwardly). We can get to be devoured by what WE THINK he/she needs, instead of tuning into what really resounds with the other individual. Keep in mind that if it's imperative to your accomplice, it doesn't need to sound good to you. You simply need to do it.

4. Try not to ask "how was your day."

Toward the end of a taxing day, we tend to rationally look at of our lives and thusly, our relationship. We depend on the standard question, "How was your day?" Generally, that exhausting inquiry will yield an exhausting answer, for example, "Fine, how was yours?" This does nothing to enhance your association and rather, can really harm it since you're losing the chance to consistently interface smallly.

Rather, have a go at asking things like, "What made you grin today?" or "What was the most difficult piece of your day?" You'll be astonished at the answers you'll get, with the additional advantage of increasing more noteworthy understanding into your loved one.

5. Make a week by week custom to check in with each other.

It can be short or long yet it starts with asking each other what worked and didn't work about the earlier week and what should be possible to enhance things this coming week. Also, utilize this chance to get in agreement with your timetables, arrange a night out on the town and discuss what you might want to witness in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without a deliberate arrangement to do a temperature check, neglected requirements and feelings of disdain can fabricate.

6. Keep it hot.

What may change in your relationship if both you and your accomplice focused on expanding the practices you every discover attractive and constraining those that aren't? Consider this in the broadest shape. "Provocative" can surely allude to room inclinations, however it additionally speaks to what energizes us about our mate in our everyday lives. Do you think that its hot on the off chance that he/she assists with the housework? Do you think that its "unsexy" when he/she utilizes the restroom with the entryway completely open? Discuss what it particularly intends to "keep it provocative" in your relationship. Be stunned, be humored, be propelled!

7. Get innovative about the time you spend together.

Break out of the "supper and a film" routine and watch how a little oddity can genuinely restore your relationship. On a financial plan and can't pull out all the stops? Bounce on the web to search for "shoddy date thoughts" and be overwhelmed at the plenty of choices. Can't manage the cost of a sitter? Take a stab at swapping keeping an eye on with companions that have children. It's free and they will probably be excited to take your children since they will get the opportunity to exploit when they drop their children at your place.

8. Get it on.

Unless you have focused on an abiogenetic organization, sex, sexual contact and touching (kissing, clasping hands, nestling and so on.) are fundamental parts of a sentimental relationship. The recurrence is obviously, up to you and it's basic that you examine your thoughts regarding it keeping in mind the end goal to avoid disdain. Uncommon are the minutes when both accomplices are "in the state of mind" at precisely the same, however that doesn't imply that you need to decay their advances. Advise yourself that you will quite often "arrive" after the initial couple of minutes and that a private communication of any sort assembles association and lifts your state of mind and wellbeing. Remember that you are never required to say "yes." If you really don't feel it, the best thing you can do is to defer. Simply ensure that you start or acknowledge inside a sensible measure of time from there on.

9. Take a (mental) excursion, regular.

Life and work diversions can get to be foremost in our brains and that leaves little time or vitality for our accomplice. Hone the craft of "Wearing the Relationship Hat." This implies (notwithstanding any crises or due dates), we are completely present when we're with our mate. We really hear what they are stating (rather than putting on a show to tune in), we abandon our diversions and we don't lift them up again until the sun comes up and we exit the entryway.

A few tips to enhance correspondence

Tragically, we aren't conceived with the intrinsic capacity to viably impart however it doesn't imply that we can't learn. Utilize the accompanying strategies to better explore and utmost the strain in your relationship:

10. Take "battle breaks" when you require them.

Before you've hit the final turning point and as you see the stretch starting to raise, either of you can call a break with the goal that cooler heads can win. The core of this instrument lies in the way that you should pick a particular time to return to the discussion (I.e. 10 minutes from now, 2:00pm on Tuesday and so forth.) so conclusion can be accomplished.

11. Burrow profound to uncover your actual emotions.

In many differences, we convey from the "Top Layer," which are the undeniable feelings, for example, outrage, irritation and so forth. Driving from this place can make perplexity, preventiveness and at last occupy from the main problem. Begin imparting from the "Base Layer" (i.e. What sentiments are truly driving your responses, for example, dissatisfaction, dismissal, depression, disregard and so forth.).

This kind of expression makes a moment feeling of sympathy since it requires genuineness and helplessness to share from this space. Pressure will scatter and from here, arrangements can spring. Simply make certain to utilize kind, non-receptive stating while communicating these base layer emotions, for example, "I felt hurt by… " as a substitution for "You're such a snap" and so on.

12. Look to comprehend ... not concur.

Simple in idea, troublesome in application. Discussions rapidly swing to contentions when we're put resources into listening to our accomplice concede that we were correct or when we are resolved to evolving his/her conclusion. Approach a discussion as a chance to comprehend your loved one's point of view instead of sitting tight for them to yield. From this viewpoint, we have an intriguing exchange and keep a victory or waiting dissatisfaction.

13. Make the most of your conciliatory sentiment.

It's surely knew that apologizing is something to be thankful for yet it just has a genuine effect when you would not joke about this. Saying things like "I'm sad you feel that way" or "I'm sad you see it that way" are an exercise in futility and breath. Regardless of the possibility that you don't concur that your activity wasn't right, you will never effectively contend an inclination.

Acknowledge that your mate feels hurt and from this place, a genuine statement of regret can have a huge effect. When you cherish your accomplice and hurt them (purposefully or not) you can simply honest to goodness apologize for the torment you brought about paying little heed to your point of view on what you did or didn't do.

You are currently, authoritatively outfitted with the extensive practice routine to completely reshape your relationship. Trim the fat and assemble your most blazing relationship forever!

Igbonla Kidnap: Lagos State Govt confirms release of pupils, teachers; vows to rid state of criminals

the lagos state government on wednesday showed the release of the four students and instructors of the lagos country version college (senior and junior) igbonla in epe who have been abducted with the aid of suspected ex-ijaw militants on october 6, 2016, assuring that the government might spare not anything till it rids the state of criminal elements.

the authorities, in a statement signed via the commissioner for facts and approach, mr. steve ayorinde, said the children have passed through medical test-up after which they were reunited with their households.

"the lagos kingdom authorities nowadays welcomed the release of the faculty pupils, vice-principal and head instructor of igbonla model university, epe, who were kidnapped by suspected ijaw militants on thursday october 6, 2016. the youngsters are doing properly; they have been taken via medical checkup and were effectively reunited with their households."

ayorinde, while restating the government’s dedication to defend lives and property, but entreated residents to be extra vigilant, protection conscious and file all suspected humans and objects visible within their neighbourhood to the appropriate security agencies.

"the dedication of the authorities to make certain 24-hour security of the nation is obvious inside the large investment in the gadget and welfare of protection agencies, in particular the police".

the commissioner, however, stated that authorities has taken adequate steps to stem the tide of kidnapping in the nation, noting that consistent with the directive of the state governor, mr. akinwunmi ambode, plans were concluded to begin the demolition of illegal systems erected throughout the country waterfronts and creeks.

"often times, the occurrence of kidnapping are perpetrated through the waterways and as such, these unlawful structures offer a leeway for these crook factors to plot and execute their nefarious sports. this step, we trust, will cross a long way to cope with this threat. the country government has also all started steps to reinforce community policing with the latest announcement by the governor that as a minimum 5000 neighbourhood watchers will quickly be recruited to enhance surveillance across the state, especially at the agricultural regions," ayorinde said.

French authorities search for person who secretly recorded Kim Kardashian in her Paris apartment after robbery

moments after paris police officers answered to the theft scene at kim ok's apartment where jewels worth $10m have been taken, a person secretly recorded a video of kim. consistent with radar on line, who received a copy of the video, the truth television megastar, 36, is visible sitting on a sofa and calmly video-chatting on a cellular phone.

tmz but states police are actually investigating to find out who recorded the video:

    "the video indicates kim on a sofa, wrapped in blanket at the same time as facetiming with a person. police are combing the luxury pad for evidence ... reputedly unaware that a person within the condominium is capturing video, which would be a primary violation of french privateness laws.

    our sources tell us kim's felony team is now running with french authorities to decide who changed into at the back of the digicam. the difficulty is, in france it is unlawful to film a person in a private placing with out their consent. we are told police accept as true with this video suits that description. the video became posted on web sites this week, but kim's prison crew close it down at once through sternly reminding the retailers the footage is unlawful.

    if kim or others who had been present can finger the camera operator, and law enforcement officials locate the culprit ... she or he ought to face a yr in jail and be fined the equivalent of approximately $50k."

radar online has showed that they took down the video after they were contacted by way of kim's criminal group.

    “the video accompanying this article has been eliminated because of a criminal chance from kim kardashian, and the object revised therefore. we do now not accept as true with, however, that both the video or the item accuse ms. kardashian of “faking” the paris theft, as her legal professionals have claimed, and which we did not intend. alternatively, they increase legitimate questions about the occasions at issue, questions which many media outlets and lots of other human beings have additionally raised. we apologize to ms. kardashian for any implication in any other case.”

Photos: Dangote spaghetti factory in Ikorodu is reportedly on fire

According to eyewitnesses, the Dangote spaghetti factory in Ebute, Ikorodu, Lagos state, is on fire. No word on whether firefighters have reached the scene. More photos after the cut...

Michael Jackson tops Forbes list of highest-paid dead celebrities with $825 million

 

 

 late king of Pop, michael jackson passed away seven years ago however still earned a amazing $825 million in 2016, making him the biggest dead celebrity earner of the 12 months. in step with forbes, the purpose he made that tons revenue changed into due to his estate's choice to sell his half of-proportion of the beatles catalogue to sony for $750 million.

the mystery star had purchased the rights to the fab 4's tune again in 1984 for $forty seven.5 million after which bought 50 percent of it to sony in 1995 for $a hundred and fifteen million.

 

  The Thriller star had purchased the rights to the Fab Four's music back in 1984 for $47.5 million and then sold 50 percent of it to Sony in 1995 for $115 million.

Others are...

2: Author and cartoonist Charles Schulz - $48 million
3: Golfer Arnold Palmer - $40 million
4: Elvis Presley - $27 million
5: Prince - $25 million
6: Bob Marley -$21 million
7: Theodor 'Dr. Seuss' Geisel - $20 million
8: John Lennon - $12 million
9:  Physicist Albert Einstein - $11.5 million
10: Original pin-up girl Bettie Page - $11 million
11 David Bowie - earned $10.5 million
12 Movie star Steve McQueen - $9 million
13: Elizabeth Taylor - $8 million

Senate extends JAMB's UTME validity period to 3 years

The nigerian senate has passed the amendment to the joint admissions and matriculation board’s act #jambbill sb. 245 into law. a part of the modification is the extension of the validity of jamb utme outcomes to a few years.
Senate president bukola saraki, in appreciating his outstanding colleagues for his or her work in the direction of the passage of the bill commented that the new amendments will certainly carry economic relief to college students in addition to parents and reduce bottlenecks and corruption in the admission process.

KSA, Asa, 2Baba and Dbanj left their mark on the Atlantic

   

When the announcement was created months past that King Sunny drinkable (KSA), Asa, 2Baba and Dbanj would light the stage of the Eko Atlantic on July 4 this year, several would have thought it might be a coffee key affair, however from what we have a tendency to saw last night, it definitely wasn’t!


The ascendence Concert, AN initiative of the most cluster and also the finale of the a lot of talked concerning Made-in-Nigeria competition attracted music fans from way and close to. whereas it might not be the primary time the Eko Atlantic has vie host to a concert however the ascendence Concert would surpass all.

The concert was opened by the amiable Sola Mogaji United Nations agency introduced herself to the swarming crowd at the Atlantic and conjointly went on to introduce the music superstars beaked to perform.

First to guide the pack was the living legend United Nations agency simply clocked seventy years getting on, King Sunny drinkable popularly known as KSA. The legendary musician United Nations agency was seen in an exceedingly Made-in-Nigeria tailored Atiku outfit sent the gang into longing by transferral back his evergreen songs back to back. several would have thought his old person age would hinder him from showing his thrilling dance steps however that wasn't the case as he danced graciously to the delight of the gang.

Innocent Idibia popularly known as 2Baba was next to perform at the Atlantic. He performed in his native Akwa-Ibom outfit with dark shades. He went on to reel out his hit songs from Implication to as an example and a lot of, a move that left the gang inquiring for a lot of. 2Baba didn’t spoil his fans as he conjointly performed his new singleOfficially Blind that was chorused by the fans throughout the amount he performed.

In between these performances, the legendary DJ, the one fans like to decision cool DJ JimmyJatt was conjointly accessible to deliver judgement on the wheel of steel at the concert. Fans of the pioneer DJ danced while not holding back as they listened to the vary of hits he mixed from his musical instrument.

Next on was the Internationally Recognised Singer and Entertainer- Asa. Asa was seen carrying her trademark Nigerian cloth shirt whereas functioning at the event. She virtually blew away everyone, she performed hits from all her albums like Bibanke, Akinyele, Mama mi, Devil be Gone, 360 et al.. She conjointly reminded everybody gift {how a lot of|what proportion|what quantity} of a decent guitar player she is as she secured on to her stringed instrument enjoying previous songs much to the singing delight of all gift there.

Asa then shocked everybody gift once she tried to praise the most Founder, patrician Segun Oniru by singing the favored Fuji music even if she confessed her band United Nations agency ar white men couldn't replicate the Fuji beats for her, a move that sent the gang into enraptured laughter.

The Koko Master Dbanj came on stage in dramatic fashion once his ‘Hype man’ Jimmie, engaged the gang in wild chants to welcome the emergence of the Ejanla (big fish as Dbanj calls himself sometimes). Dbanj failed to simply perform for the audience, he amused them too keeping them on the sting of their seats for many of the night, with many hits like Suddenly, Emergency, Mr. dowered and alternative hits.